Finding the BIG love - Tip # 1

Well, here we are. The student becomes the teacher, although learning never stops...we do however reach a point when all the lessons we have absorbed can be shared. Our qualifications shine brightly with the manifestation of all that we studied so painfully hard for. In the crudest sense we can hold our trophies high and declare that we are now experts!

Yes I would say that I am an expert, if we go by the traditional definition: "a person with a high degree of skill and knowledge in a particular area". If I was to calculate the degree of skill and knowledge that I have gained in the area of LOVE and relationships this would most definitely qualify me as an expert! What is the point of being an expert though, if not to enjoy those skills and also share them with others?

So begins my series of Tips and Insights, aimed at inspiring hope and reminding everyone that LOVE is possible, LOVE is everything and LOVE is precious.

Firstly without hesitation and with a huge amount of gusto I must say that no amount of reading, journalling, attending courses, working on ourselves and perfecting the art of manifestation will make up for any amount of self doubt or any lack of self acceptance. 

Only YOU can make YOU happy, this is quite possibly the most important lesson I have learned. Until you accept YOU, embrace YOU and begin to make your own days happy you will most certainly not be ready to find the BIG love that will rock your world. It is often the case that we think we are at this point and head out into the dating world with our heads held high, if however there is any self doubt this will come back to bite us.

I can tell you from experience that this is when we are most vulnerable to a relationship that is not wholesome or destined for lifelong peace. If you are not complete in yourself then you are more likely to attract someone who mirrors this exact state of being. I have in fact been in several of these types of relationships in the past and they are not healthy. We seek the completion of our happiness through external sources when we have not completed this process ourselves.

Take the time to know yourself, be at ease and in a state of serene peace in your own company. Remind yourself that nobody else is going to fill the gaps, only you can identify them and fill them in. It is not the new relationship that is going to complete your process, make up for your lack of confidence or heal any of your past hurts. Only YOU can do those things, and if you rely on someone else to do them it is much like sticking a bandaid over a gaping wound, it is going to come unstuck and hurt a whole lot more in the end.

WOW, big lessons. Huge and intense things to share, this is going to take a while :-) Please do let me know if you are out there and if I am reaching you with this sharing!