Good lord where does one begin to condense 40 years into a blog post!! It is certainly not my intention to reduce the abundance of those years into a limit of 500 words or less, however I do intend to share the hell out of some of those years!! It wouldn't be a milestone for me without excessive sharing now would it?? As an optimist who has never really focused on the number of my years, this milestone is more about reflection and celebration than anything else. It is not my style to descend into a rant of regret, nothing but BIG love for my life and it's learnings here.
As the biggest birthday yet approaches I am busy preparing my book proposal for Hay House, navigating life as Mother of a feisty four year old, doing all that I can for the charities who bless me with their work and soaking up all of the moments with the people who lift me up. Letting go has been a big theme over the last few years of my 30's and learning to let go with GRACE has become a very important goal for me. On reflection, in the heat of a moment, grace has been a tricky thing to grasp and display. No regrets though, simply more learnings.
If I was to try and summarise some of the big life lessons gathered over the past 40 years the list might look something like this at first draft, with many more to come:
♡ Embrace and celebrate all things childhood! Looking at the world through the eyes of our children we are reminded of the pure goodness and can take ourselves back into this magical place.
♡ Family matters, and family is not always blood. Family are those who know our routines, take the time, hold our hands and our hearts through the good and the bad.
♡ We only truly live if we put ourselves out there, and I mean right out there, in amongst the scary and the uncertain. Playing it safe is OK if you are happy existing, if you want to LIVE then you need to face your fears, fall, fall again and pick yourself up.
♡ It is OK to ask for help, repeat after me. OH how this one could have changed things for me, it is never too late though and it has been one of my greatest learnings. It is NOT a sign of weakness, it is a sign of respect for ourselves and others. Giving someone special the gift of our asking, and allowing them to help is one of the most beautiful acts.
♡ Always say what you feel, always tell your people that you love them. If I could have one wish granted, it would be to have the chance to tell my Mother one more time that I love her, for her to hear those words in her resting place.
♡ Love hurts, and the hurt fades, and it teaches us. Simple yet hugely complex. Let yourself feel, put yourself out there for love, let it in, give it away and you will be richer for the experience, and the hurt will fade, trust me.
♡ Friendships do not need to be forever, there is an old saying about friendships coming into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Embrace this, learn to let go, speak your mind and surround yourself with those who share your dreams, lift you up and accept you for every little bit of you.
♡ Life is too precious, short and too damn special for cheap champagne, cheap wine, bad coffee and for saying yes to things that do not float your boat. Enough said on this one.
♡ Step up for people, and for what you believe in. Sitting on the sidelines is OK for those who are happy to exist, if you want to feel alive then you need to step up. Be a little extra-ordinary, go above and beyond.
♡ Being kind to others will lift you up. Possibly one of the most significant lessons and also one of my favourite personal wellbeing strategies, if you are stuck in your mucky funk, simply spread some kindness to others and it will change things for you, promise!
To be continued...